We always meet only with ourselves. If a thought pops into my head, someone will reflect it to me. Looking from that point of view—the world is not a collection of people and me, but i am a collection of people. There are many of us, but we are one.
It is very important to understand that other people are your mirrors. If I see that someone does not trust me, it means I don’t trust myself. If I see that someone does not love me, it means I don’t love myself.
The external world is a mirror. Your task is to see yourself in this mirror and to become aware of it. It only depends on you whether you will use this opportunity to get to know yourself or not.
«Do you want to know your main problem?»
Do you want to know your main problem? Buy yourself a mirror. And when you want to accuse someone, take a look in it. You will see a certain face there and it will tell you something very important. These words and the expression of that face are directed not to someone, but to you. Take a look, and you will see everything. That everything is the most important thing for you.
Perhaps, this face will scream: «Be nicer to me. Understand me. Hear me out. Do it. Why are you always like that? » Everything you are going to see and hear is related to you. You speak to yourself, but you do not know that.
Life is a mirror. People are mirrors. If you really want to understand and to become aware of what in reality happens to you: what you think, feel, and do—this mirror will help you.
People as mirrors will reflect your feelings. When you scream at someone, be aware that you scream at yourself and about yourself. If you do that, you will understand everything. You will understand that you are not screaming at someone, you are screaming at yourself. In reality, everything we say, we say not to other people, we say it to ourselves. We try, but cannot hear ourselves, that’s why we scream so loud.
After 15 years of the same conversation, you suddenly heard yourself. That’s illumination. Please, record it on your cell phone and listen to what you are constantly trying to say to yourself. Perhaps, you finally will understand that you were always talking to yourself, but were unable to hear or see it.
Everything you say, at the level of consciousness you happen to be at the moment, activate the same words and the same level of consciousness in another human being. As a result, he starts to «vibrate» at your level of vibration.
For example, it is very easy to start a fight. You just have to approach someone and tell him that he is an idiot. If it’s not enough for him, add something a bit stronger, and you reach your goal. Do you understand what happens when you approach someone and start to insult him?
Meanwhile, you get surprised and say: «What is this? I came with my best intentions. I told him: «Listen, your socks stink». This is the truth. To another one, I said: «This tie does not look good on you». And this is the truth. The truth happens to be different. Do you want to be truthful or happy? Think about it.
The higher the level of consciousness we happen to occupy, the fewer disagreements develop. The higher the level of consciousness we happen to occupy, the less you will want to accuse others and the more you will feel that we all are one.
Suddenly you felt that every one of us is very important and that a human being you screamed at all your life is very important to you because he is your mirror. He was fulfilling the most difficult work for you constantly «mirroring» you.
And what if he was not there? You would have never learned how rough and insulting to others you were without even feeling it. You would have never found it without his unwilling help. It is he who constantly reminds you of it. You just don’t want to see it in yourself. When you start to see, you will see what an important role this human being played in your life.
— Does another human being «mirror» his state through us?
— Of course he «mirrors ». But that is a different question. Let us learn ourselves first, and then teach others. Everyone wants to teach others. The wisdom of this world is that when one says something to another human being, it is important for both of them. Everything is made so well in this world that one has to be a total idiot not to learn.
You say something, and that is related to you and to the one you say it to. Both can find it useful. But many people who get to know the laws of «mirroring», start to say to people that are close to them: «Everything you say is not related to me. It has to do with you. Here is a book, read it. Everything is discussed there. So, remember what you just said. Think about it, and remember that I told you that ».
People that are wiser try to hear themselves and to become aware of what was said. They attempt to become aware of the truth in themselves. If something touched you, it is important precisely for you.
How do we create our world? If inside us is hatred, what kind of a world is going to be outside of us? It is going to be full of hate. If inside us is fear, what kind of a world is going to be outside of us? It is going to be full of fear. And if inside us is happiness, what kind of a world is it going to be? It is going to be a happy world. So, what does a perception of the world depend on? It depends on our state. And our state depends on us.
If you have not understood it until now, it is because you are not aware of yourself. The one who is aware of oneself understands that the world one creates is one’s world. You create your internal and external world yourself. If happiness is inside you, everything around you is happy. If inside you is horror, then only horror, suffering, and hate is outside.
—Do I understand this correctly that a man that happens to be next to me is a reflection of my inner man?
— It is a reflection of a part of your inner man, not a full reflection of his, but certain parts of him.
— If something does not satisfy me in him, does it mean that something does not satisfy me in myself, but I am unable to admit it to myself?
— Yes. The first reason is your partial, non-holistic vision. This is the axiom of perception that exists in the world of survival, where we are told that there are we and there are other people: a husband, a child, a coworker. That other human being can be bad and most likely he is going to be bad. He is going to bother you, and you will manipulate him in one way or another in order to get what you need.
That is a common and widespread point of view. With this point of view we get married, go to work, etc. I am talking about a different axiom of perception in which I offer you to look at the external world as a mirror. In this particular case, if we discuss your husband, it is related to your masculine part. What exactly irritates you in him?
—One of the problems is that he abuses alcohol. My dad was not a drinker. He never smoked. He was great. Why am I with a man who drinks?
— Let’s take a look at this situation from another point of view. I will ask you: «Why did you find this man and why did you bring this drunkard close to you? » Where is the profit? Did he drink when you were dating or did he start drinking after you got married?
— He drunk a little bit, but the dose was slowly escalating. I was not paying attention. It was not bothering me. I did not see it as a problem. I have never seen this as a child in my family. Is it possible that behind this is my disapproval of alcoholics?
— Most likely, yes.
— I had such a great dad. He never drank. Man’s not drinking was always viewed as a positive character trait in my family. I always wanted to have a husband that would be like my dad, but I received a total opposite.
— He has to be an antipode of your dad. Why? You wanted a husband that would be like your father, but you received a different assignment. Again, we get to know this world in its totality—as a whole. If you were given a husband that was similar to your father, what new thing would you learn? You are given something totally different—a fully reversed antipode—in order for you to learn the opposite side of a man in his wholeness.
— In order for me to see myself? Is this my mirror?
— Of course. Only the positive side was reflected in the mirror by your father. Let’s call it positive. But he also had a negative side. Now you are being offered to get to know that side.
— Okay. Let’s say I got to know it. I learned it. Then what?
— Not so fast, not so fast! If I were to think that way, being 30 years of age, I would write down: «I come to be aware of everything. Love you! Buy! ». And Pint would have published just one book. It would have contained only one page.
— But how am I to figure myself out?
— Okay. Now take a look at what Pint does when he investigates. How many books has he written? What was he doing all this time calling it awareness? And you? You wrote a sentence: «I am aware of everything ». What exactly did you become aware of in the shadow side of your man? You say that you become aware of your husband. Okay. Then my first question would be: «Why does he drink? » Nobody does anything without a reason. Why would your husband drink? What are the motives that move him to drink?
— First of all, he is constantly in a state of guilt and shame. His parents overwhelm him. I think he does not live his own life. He is trying to fulfill the image his parents wanted to see.
— Look, your image of your father is as bright as his image of his parents. He cannot reach it. Because of it, he is experiencing a chronic state of guilt. He constantly blames himself. That’s a great motivation to drink from dusk till dawn.
— But he is not aware of it! You can’t even prove to him that he feels guilty and ashamed. As soon as this feeling of guilt arises, he drinks a glass of vodka, and it appears to him that there is no guilt.
— Of course. Would he acknowledge it? No. And in order not to feel it, he drinks. And then even a stronger feeling of guilt arises, and he has to drink two glasses of vodka. Later on delirium tremens would sets in, and his last words on his death bed would be: «I don’t feel any guilt».
— But what does it mean? Is this my feeling of guilt?
— Of course. The world is a mirror. This is the feeling of guilt your inner man experiences. You need to investigate why your father felt guilty. Your father is inside of you now and you live with this chronic feeling of guilt.
Everything that is around you is a projection of your inner world. People mirror what is inside of you. An enlightened human being is a being that sees the wisdom and happiness of this world. And irrespective of what happens around him, he is calm and happy. He appears crazy to other people. But in reality he is the only sane one. Everyone else is crazy because they see partially. He sees holistically. He creates his own world.
You don’t have to change the world in order to be happy, you need to change your perception. But in order to do so, you need to be aware of what you are doing, feeling, and thinking. Otherwise, you will constantly be occupied with other people and the external things, not understanding that you create your own world yourself. The one who is not aware of oneself tries to manipulate the world in order to adjust it to one’s dependencies. This is crazy. No one was ever able to do so.
Pay attention to the words you say to people you blame, reprimand, and reproach. Hear exactly what you pronounce. Concentrate your attention on the offered point of view, that you are not saying something to someone, but say it to yourself in relation to your own manifestations.
Find the situations in your life where you behave exactly the way the accused by you human being. Pay attention to the motives of your behavior. Take a look at whether your attitude toward a human being that irritates you changes when these motives are seen and understood by you. It is precisely your understanding of yourself in this situation that allows you to understand another human being. In reality, it always allows you to understand yourself.