Why you lying? It’s a bit provocative as a title. My first reaction is, I am not lying.
Why do we lie? One might say, you call yourself awakened so you should not lie, but I do and I lie a lot, not as much as I used to but a lot.
Let me give the 4 top reasons we lie:
- Self-esteem issues
- To protect someone
- Make people feel better
- Belief system
Self esteem: Most of the time people lie because of low self esteem or lack of confidence. Most common lies: our age, weight, financial situation, quality of personal relationship, education. The purpose of those lies usually is to make us feel better about ourselves or maybe just out of our competitive spirit.
Protect someone: This one is out of humanity. You can see someone broke their hand in an accident and you say it does not look too bad, don’t worry about it, you will be ok. Or when facing someone on their deathbed, we try to improve their mood by lying to them. We also lie to our kids, or someone who works for us, telling them we are going to punish them if they don’t do what we want them to do at the moment, even though we know that we are not going to do anything about it.
Make people feel better: We call it a white lie, the most popular even among honest and proper people. It is common in a work or business environment as compliments to someone about how good they look even though you do not think so. It can also be to encourage someone to do something, like, “You are so good, keep training. You can be a world champion one day.”
Belief system: This is one of the most dangerous lies, when we repeat information that we have heard somewhere whether from TV, from a friend, or on the internet–what we believe is the truth, when in reality it is a lie.
So keep lying to me about how great my posts are to make me feel better so I can write more posts. Of course, I am just kidding.
The purpose of this post is to point out that we all lie, but what I believe is important is not to lie to ourselves, and not judge anyone else who has lied, because sometimes they are not trying to hurt you. It is just what they believe. Maybe they think that it might protect you from something or make you feel better.